Dating a black man with children
On the other hand, young black females, while they may have had strong friendships with white females, were not as likely to have equal numbers of white male friendships.
Moreover, for some black females, as the dating years began, former friendships with white females began to fade.
To be sure, many of these women lead productive and fulfilling lives without ever marrying, some even decide to have children without husbands, but a common thread I have observed among many is a wistfulness for a part of life which has been denied to them…a part of life all other groups of women take for granted.
I have set out in this book to explore the lives of black women who have chosen to cross the racial divide in their quest for personal happiness.
That fact led one Northwestern University professor to write a book advocating for more black women to consider dating men outside their own race – specifically, white men – if they’re looking to get married. Kamala Harris and businesswoman Mellody Hobson have in common? But despite these real-world examples of interracial relationships, a 2010 Pew Research Center report found that black women are the least likely group of women to marry, especially outside of their own race.“Right from age 16 and forward, black women start outnumbering black men.“Their stories – without including their race, in many cases –are typical of anybody else’s story: parents objecting, financial problems, sexual issues.” Black women are the only group of women in America who cannot take for granted that if they seek marriage to a black man that there will be an ample supply of available men from which to choose.This is not a new problem; indeed, it goes back several decades but there hasn’t been much public discussion about how to resolve this issue.