Dating a girl with ocd dating hardware wing
Newly sober, she didn’t date anyone for eight months, giving herself time to recognize the red flags that her earlier self was not ready to see.
Whether as a client or a companion, a guide to sober dating is very important in understanding how matters of the heart change.
Additionally, “normal” sober dating can seem boring by comparison.
A person in recovery can still well remember the tension and drama of a relationship affected by substance abuse.
Even for people who aren’t using anymore, and who consistently work the program, there is an unconscious identification with other addicts, to the point of seeking out romantic or sexual partners with substance abuse problems (either borderline or full blown).
Part of the draw comes from the feeling of relapsing without actually doing it; a psyche that is still too strongly tempted by addiction can rationalize anything, including staying with a partner (or multiple partners) who are using drugs.