Dating a guy with divorced parents
Cancelling plans with his daughter to go out with you may cause her to feel abandoned and rejected.Trying to get your boyfriend to spend time with you instead of his daughter, may make him feel pressured.Even the smallest of things can cause an avalanche of fear. Dating this girl will never be easy, but teaching her to fully trust you will be a reward unlike any other. Realize that you are teaching this girl how to love the right way and make sure she knows how you feel.When she finally opens up, you will be her everything. Constance Ahrons’ research, “Family Ties After Divorce: Long-Term Implications for Children,” found children have a more difficult time adjusting to a stepmother than a stepfather.
Even though a teenager is less likely to quickly form an attachment to a father’s girlfriend the way a younger child would, it can still be confusing if she starts to like you, and then things don't work out. If things get serious and his daughter starts spending a lot of time around the two of you, let your boyfriend enforce the rules.
The worst thing you can do is engage in an argument with his daughter and force your boyfriend to side with either you or her.
It's best to try to play the role of a counselor or friend until you establish a bond, according to the American Psychological Association article, "Making Stepfamilies Work."Even if you get along great, remember that you are not her mother.
Some teens resist the idea of a parent dating someone new and may act out to try to cause friction.
If she does break rules and behaves badly, let her father deal with her.