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The following Saturday night around 7 pm I finally heard from him.
He texted about his move and eventually got around to seeing if I was free.
He added that he would be moving earlier that day, but hoped he would free up that evening.
I told him that I didn’t have any plans yet and was happy to stay flexible. We hung up and I never heard another word from him all week. I have recently stopped doing that at the request of my therapist as well as several of my guy friends (even some here on Medium).
I think we even sent a couple of follow-up texts the next day. What happened with these three guys feels like the perfect example of this lesson.
It’s been two weeks and I haven’t heard another word from him. Of course it’s disappointing to be back at square one (aka Level 2), but I know that my actions had very little (heck, maybe even nothing) to do with why these three guys disappeared. Bonnie was off the dating market from 1998 (when she met her now ex-husband) till early 2014.
He also shared that he was wiped out from the move and relieved to postpone meeting me until he wasn’t so tired.
We casually batted around seeing each other when his schedule settled down.
I wasn’t hedging my bets as much as trying to cooperate with the capricious online dating gods.
Or rather, at some point or other, we established a certain response as our go-to, and we never bothered to alter that response moving forward. Let me give you two scenarios, and let's see if you can tell which one warrants a response of feeling rejected.
Whether they're trying to find a significant other or close a business deal, they manage to pick themselves up and continue on their merry way. Not that we aren't capable of it, but we choose not to be. It's how you react to rejection that makes all the difference.
It’s not uncommon for me to go weeks or even a couple of months without matching or connecting with anyone.
Somehow I had caught an unlikely break at the beginning of the month.