Miss manners online dating
(The precipitating issue was he wouldn't get an HIV test.)The whole Internet dating thing is scary to me (I'm in my 50s and divorced), and this incident makes me feel like my BS detector is broken. Hardly something she can be expected to reverse with a few pithy words.
It is the same as turning up to a dinner party in tracksuit and trainers holding a can of Special Brew, just not done.
Please accept I do not find men in any form of women's clothes appealing and I have no interest in couples and that includes all you single men with a couple profile. You want to perform like a seal that is up to you but really if you think a random stranger wanking is in any way appealing you are mad. An I include bicurious in bisexual and a straight man looking for TV's TS men etc.
Let us therefore address only the aspects of the situation that relate to Internet dating.
While undeniably making it easier to meet great numbers of people looking for romance, it has, as you say, made an always-risky venture even scarier.