Physical attraction dating
In a post a couple weeks ago I mused about how the online dating world is plagued by what I guess we’ll call the “physical attraction problem.” I touched off a bit of controversy, both here and on Facebook, because there was some disconnect between what I set out to say and what people wound up hearing. In any case, the question of attraction is important if we’re ever to improve on our current trainwreck of an online dating system. Couldn’t care less – I’ve been crazy over blondes, brunettes and redheads with short hair, long hair, curly hair, straight hair, you name it. Now, you notice that there were physical and non-physical traits in there, and you see preferences and deal-breakers in both categories.
I’ve been thinking about these issues, for reasons noted in that top link, and I can’t help feeling like the single biggest hurdle to getting from to something that actually works for people is physical attraction. Guess what – you’re like I am, and so is just about everyone else.
There are many factors which influence one person's attraction to another, with physical aspects being one of them.
Physical attraction itself includes universal perceptions common to all human cultures, as well as aspects that are culturally and socially dependent, along with individual subjective preferences.
It is one of our most powerful mate selection criteria.
Much of e Harmony’s philosophy regarding relationships has to do with placing physical attraction lower on our list of selection criteria, because when looking at “long-term” relationship success, physical attraction doesn’t rank very high.
He wants her to value him above all the other men she could be with.
” While there are varying opinions on this matter, I’ll share the general consensus from men I have asked to put their feelings into words.
I’m exploring the possibility that there’s a better way to help single people find happiness, and if that leads me into a lucrative business start-up, well, that’s just gravy.
I’m interested to hear what you think, and thanks for tagging along on my little windmill-tilting expedition.
If you’re not sure how to pull for that binding desire for commitment, allow me to suggest you start with rooting for your happiness.
I believe emotional attraction trumps physical attraction when it comes to finding the kind of relationship that yields the most happiness.